dealership told me my transmission fluid was dark?

ya if it's dark it shold be changed. any trans shop shold be able to do that not only a dealer and they will tell you if it's clean or has stuff in it. Some minute particles shold be expected in the pan, so don't let them sell you a trans overhaul until it acts up.

so just have it changed? no flush?

yes just have it changed or flushed whichvever you prefer. changing it means dropping thepan dn areplacing that fluid along iwth filter and gasket it will take any where form 3-5 qts etc.

ok then ill just get it changed. the places i call about it don't even know if they can do it with there equipment is my car different from others in that area

each manufacturer is different, i think they are talking about whether or not they have the filter or gasket for it. Unless they are talking about flushing equiptment and maybe the connectors to do it .