Does the starter make any noise while trying to start it?Are you geting power to the small purple wire at the starter while cranking?Also automatic or manual transmission?

not even cranking at all. didn't ck the small wire for power tho. Did cross over on solenoid and still lacked ability to turn starter when on car. bench cked in machine and start was oked then back on is again a no go. Automatic trans. will ck solenoid pur / switch wire tomorrow for power tho. Does any wrong connections elsewhere cause the computer or any relays to not alllow full power to starter or cause a nonactivation in the system somehow?

When you jump the big wire to small purple wire stud does the start kick try to turn the engine over?Have you made sure the engine turns over freely?

No and yes

If the starter doesnt kick from jumping the starter you have a bad battery or bad connection on the negative and or positive cable.

found the power issue to starter purple wire. the batt grd was loose
ly laying hiden on the frame. now not starting but cranking fine. did fire once with starting fluid then cut out and now nothing and dont want to use the ether again
did try gas tho and nothing still. could i have fried the ECM or the ICM or coils. fuses are fine and power to everything it seems

So now when trying to start it is the security light on solid or flashing?

stays on solid

Thats why it only starts on starting fluid the security system has shut down the fuel injectors.so it wont start.Have you tried relearning the pass lock sensor?Your going to have to scan the body control module for codes at some point to get the codes why the security system is kicking in.A diyer scan tool wont read body control module codes.

Heres the pass lock relearn give it a try and see if it starts?

I was in error I think on the security light as following up on your fix guide didn't help and the light wasn't on (or flashing) other than as i engaged to start then it would go off. I researched this passlock in depth too with your helpful lead and now note light cant turn off at 10 if it aint on.

Any other suggestions now that I screwwed up so to say

so with the key in the run position not trying to start it is a security light on solid or flashing? If not I would check in the actual fuel pressure? That's where i would start next if it starts on a prime